By Sarah J. Jacobs, Family Law Attorney
When facing a divorce, one of the first critical decisions you’ll likely make is how to navigate the legal process. With so many other decisions and concerns about the future, handling the divorce on your own - going the DIY route - might seem like the simplest and most cost-effective solution.
As divorce attorneys, we get the appeal. It’s easy to imagine that doing your own divorce will save you money and help you control the outcome of your divorce. It’s a common mindset for divorcing couples who believe their situation is simple and straightforward.
The divorce process is not always as simple as it appears at first glance, though. Before committing to doing everything yourself, there are some common pitfalls of DIY divorce you should be aware of.
The following are some of the challenges you are likely to encounter if you decide to proceed without a lawyer.
Divorce laws differ from state to state, and even counties within the same state can have different divorce requirements. What’s more, each divorce is unique and what might apply to one set of circumstances might not apply to another. In fact, even experienced divorce lawyers will tell you that no two divorces are the same. It depends on the circumstances that are specific to your case as to how the law will apply to you.
Aside from legal complexities, there are financial issues that will need to consider. If you don’t have a complete picture of the marital estate, this can lead to an unfair division of assets and debts, especially if there are hidden assets or undisclosed debts. This can also impact support agreements, which can cause financial hardships in the future.
The right divorce attorney will look out for your interests and explain your options – from hiring a forensic accountant to helping you come up with a financial plan that fits your goals.
Ready to brush up on divorce law? If you’re DIY-ing your divorce, you’ll need to understand not only substantive legal rulings including case law and statutes, but also processes and timelines for steps like:
If you aren’t intimately familiar with the steps required to navigate a divorce to conclusion - like those listed above - your divorce can become complicated quickly.
What’s more, divorce proceedings have paperwork requirements and strict filing deadlines. Paperwork must be filled out with meticulous attention to detail (including things like page limits, font requirements and sometimes number of lines on a page)—if you fail to dot your i’s and cross your t’s, your divorce could get delayed, or in some cases, dismissed.
It’s also critical to meet court deadlines, as there are consequences for missing a deadline. For instance, missing the deadline for submitting your financial affidavit can result in court fines or a delay in the divorce process.
You also need to keep track of court appearances when you decide to handle your own divorce. For instance, if you fail to appear in court for a hearing or a trial, the court can enter a default judgment against you. This means the court could grant the other party everything they request without you even getting a chance to present your side of the story.
This attention to detail is something that the right attorney should bring to the table—they’ll work diligently to ensure all your documents are completed according to court rules.
Divorce and taxes are an especially complex combination, opening up parties to new obligations, unexpected filing scenarios, and (even more) frustrating paperwork. Without thoughtful legal advice and strategy, complimented by appropriate tax and financial advice from those professionals, you could make one of the many common missteps, such as:
A family law attorney can help make sure that you are meeting the tax laws during your divorce.
While the expense of hiring a divorce attorney might seem like a lot, it’s a small price to pay compared to the potentially costly pitfalls of DIY divorce. Here’s how a DIY divorce can cost you.
Additional expenses - Filing errors, such as missing information on the documents, can cause delays in the process. This can result in additional court fees or even having to file again. Because you’re not a legal professional, it’s easy to make legal mistakes that can negate any initial savings of a DIY divorce.
An unfair divorce settlement - Omission of crucial financial information can lead to an unfair settlement. And a poorly worded agreement can result in ongoing disputes in future, especially where the terms of the agreement are not well defined or are ambiguous. Unfortunately, this can result in having to go back to court to resolve the issues, which comes at additional legal cost.
Higher emotional costs - Do not ignore the emotional consequences of doing your own divorce. Trying to deal with all of the legal matters at the same time as trying to work and take care of other responsibilities can be overwhelming. This extra load can increase your stress and make it difficult to make good decisions.
An experienced divorce attorney is your strongest advocate throughout the divorce process. They can guide you through the legal system, defend your rights, and help you reach a fair settlement agreement. With an attorney by your side, you can avoid the pitfalls of DIY divorce, reduce your stress, and begin to plan for your future.
Sarah Jacobs is a Divorce Attorney and mediator in Morristown, New Jersey who has been representing and protecting the rights of her clients for nearly 20 years. Sarah is the co-founder of the family law firm Jacobs Berger, LLC. The attorneys at Jacobs Berger are dedicated to providing dynamic and personalized legal solutions to divorcing families.
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